Comments on: Lesbian Travel: 4 Things To Know Before You Hit the Road

By: Dorita

Dorita — Tue, 19 Feb 2019 05:46:12 +0000

Thank you for this article. As a senior lesbian traveling solo I am pretty much ignored which has its advantages. But sometimes it would be nice just to met locals and be honest. I will check out her website.

By: Plastikfrei Leben

Plastikfrei Leben — Mon, 02 Apr 2018 02:34:14 +0000

Thanks for the blog post.
I am traveling since 1 1/2 years with my girlfriend. At the moment we are in Bangkok. Yesterday I was also checking if there are any bars or places where you can meet other women – but the most places are men only.

I think 99% of the time local people think we are friends or sisters because many people in the countries we visited so far told us its not “common”.

Thanks for sharing your post

By: Rivka

Rivka — Fri, 27 Oct 2017 15:13:58 +0000

In reply to Helen.

I have to agree with Helen here. My wife and I have been travelling on and off for the better part of the last 7 years and are currently on a big 2 year trip as a honeymoon adventure. We don’t neccessarily travel to the “safe locations” and we are careful about how we present when we are in places we know can be a problem but I’m not sure that the lesbian community is accurately represented with the above information. Not to say that the problems that can be faced above are not issues for all lesbian couples but outward presentation of sexuality is very different than those who “pass”. My wife is butch and I am not. I can “pass” as straight should I choose to but how my wife who is not comfortable presenting in a femminine is recieved can be a very different story. I think to get a wider view there may need to be a post for butch women.

By: Helen

Helen — Wed, 31 May 2017 15:26:31 +0000

As with most information I have found, full of contradictions. “Don’t let fear hold you back-go somewhere welcoming!”

I am headed to Tanzania for 6 months, where it is illegal to be gay. And I am VERY butch. And I am a little scared, yes. Most of the well-meaning “tips” I have been getting are from gay men and it’s “Women almost never get arrested! Wear whatever you want!” which is terrible and short-sighted. it’s not illegal in the USA to be gay, but should people not pay attention to the norms where they are going? Most bigots act outside of the law.

If you’re going to tell people to only travel to “safe” places, and they listen to you, that’s letting fear hold them back. Meanwhile I have shaved my head, auditioning different knit hats and poofy pants and tunics, even sort of a man-dress. Should be fun. After Tanzania I am going directly to Thailand for 6 more months. See you in a year.

By: Natalie Doliner

Natalie Doliner — Fri, 17 Mar 2017 03:52:43 +0000

Great, informative article. Thank you. I am just starting to travel as a single lesbian, and it would be nice to meet others out there. You gave me good ideas about how to do my research.

By: Mei and Kerstin

Mei and Kerstin — Thu, 29 Dec 2016 22:41:33 +0000

Thanks for this post Dani! And thank you Matt for creating an LGBT column here! It’s always good to know how other lesbian couple travelers handle some awkward situations. For years, we had not really shown that we’re a couple. People would think that we’re just friends, and in several countries and places we just let them believe it, because it was “easier” and we prefered to avoid problems. But now that we’re in our 30s, legally married, and together for over 14 years…, we grew tired of “hiding”. So we’ve decided to say right away from the start that we are a married couple, and if necessary to ask if they (such as boutique hotels or private tour guides) have a problem with that. If they do, we prefer to walk away, and use another service provider. Of course, that may seem an odd thing to do for travellers: there are places/countries we will probably never set foot on, and we also make less friends on the road (some would think we prefer to be left alone as a couple, while others are unsure how they should behave/do/say). But as important as traveling and exploring various cultures are to us, our relationship, the truth, and the fact to be able to travel together as a married (lesbian) couple have become even more important throughout the years.

By: Kevin Gauthert

Kevin Gauthert — Tue, 01 Nov 2016 17:26:19 +0000

Actually I doubt anyone had never met a gay person
May never have met an OPENLY gay person.. someone they knew was gay.. slightly different

By: Peter Danvers

Peter Danvers — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 17:45:32 +0000

Very nice article.

By: NomadicMatt

NomadicMatt — Sun, 09 Oct 2016 19:19:59 +0000

In reply to Gina. I want to make sure everyone has the best information to travel on a budget! We are an inclusive community!

By: Julianna

Julianna — Wed, 05 Oct 2016 17:04:52 +0000

What a great piece and nice to hear about travelling from a different perspective. Well written and very insightful.